Her Shoes Told Me She Didn’t Belong at Church

LAURA: In late 2021, I started attending church again. It is not an LDS church, but another one in my Mountain West area. Covid had left me feeling isolated from the kind of rituals and corresponding social-spiritual connections that feed my soul, and, while I’m tentative about organized religion, I found that Sunday services at a low-demand congregation helped fill that need.

One Sunday soon after I began attending, I noticed something about the family sitting near me. The four of them looked a lot like the families in the ward I attended when I was growing up: mom, dad, and two young kids with a bag full of activities to occupy little hands. Like all of us, they wore their masks and were dressed for church, although, because this was not an LDS church, they were not in the “church clothes” of my youth. But neither was I.

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My Trans Teen and the Sting of Being Active LDS

TW: Policy exclusion of transgender individuals

BRANDY: Several weeks before Christmas, I stood in my kitchen wrapping pralines. It’s tedious, monotonous, work, and the worst part of making the damn things. My mind was racing, stressing, about all the things I still had to do before bed, before tomorrow, before I left town for a few days, before Christmas. My husband walked into the kitchen and something in his expression made me ask what was going on. He said, “You have four sons.” And I felt the floor fall out from under my feet. Continue reading “My Trans Teen and the Sting of Being Active LDS”