Keep Sweet and Wear Your Sleeveless Garments (or Don’t)

ATHENA: Last week the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints sort of accidentally on-purpose announced a change to the style of LDS temple garments – the sacred underwear that faithful Mormons are expected to don when they first attend the temple and then continue to wear throughout their lives.

This isn’t the first time the LDS church has changed the garment design. It’s not even the first time in my lifetime such changes have been made. But this change is an even bigger deal than other previous changes have been. In each prior instance, the changes have had the effect of making the garment less obvious, less obtrusive, less inconvenient to wear, relative to earlier versions. They’ve still been obvious, obtrusive, and inconvenient, though, even in their scaled-down iterations. This latest one is the “skimpiest” version yet. It’s – gasp – sleeveless! There’s even a version for women that appears to accommodate going commando in hot climates. (Sorry, fellas, you don’t get the commando option unless you want to wear the women’s “slip” or “slip skirt” version. That’s up to you. Don’t ask, don’t tell.)

The Church’s garment designs no longer affect me personally. I was PIMO (physically in/mentally out) for several years before I stopped wearing garments completely, and that was decades ago. I’m not going back to them now, sleeves or no sleeves. This new change is hitting so many people, especially women, so hard that I can’t help thinking about my own experience with garment-wearing.

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Be Careful Who You Shun in the Name of the Lord

ATHENA: As General Conference weekend spins up, I find myself dreading the fallout even more than I usually do. This past year has been a rough one for people on the margins of Mormondom, and I am one of those people. I tried for a very long time to maintain a position in the center, to belong to the in-crowd, until I just couldn’t anymore. The LDS church was hurting me in very specific ways, and because of that, I grew to understand how much pain church membership was causing other people for whom I cared deeply. I guess you could say my empathy chip finally activated.

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Not Thin Enough for the Celestial Kingdom

TW: Anorexia, eating disorders, domestic bullying

ATHENA: One Thanksgiving when I was about fourteen-years-old, beloved relatives came to share the day with my family and brought treats I’d never seen before. I took small helpings of each. When I reached for a second helping, my older brother said, “Don’t eat that; you’ll end up looking like <insert name of non-svelte teenage girl in our ward> and no one will want to date you.” Continue reading “Not Thin Enough for the Celestial Kingdom”

My Parents were Closeted, Nuanced Mormons (and you can be one, too)

ATHENA: I recently realized that I never heard either of my parents utter that familiar testimony-bearing expression, “I know the Church is true.” They were both raised in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints by the children of Mormon pioneers. They raised me and my siblings in the Church. They never said they didn’t think the church was true, but they never said they did, either. Continue reading “My Parents were Closeted, Nuanced Mormons (and you can be one, too)”